Comments on: Forward Steps

By: forwardsteps

forwardsteps — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 20:50:39 +0000

Thanks Derek.
Will do something that'll help me remember to drop in again!
Have a top week.
Cheers, Thea

By: forwardsteps

forwardsteps — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:50:39 +0000

Thanks Derek.
Will do something that'll help me remember to drop in again!
Have a top week.
Cheers, Thea

By: dshan

dshan — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:36:00 +0000

Thea, thanks so much for stopping by! Your story is inspirational, and I
hope you'll drop in again soon!

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By: forwardsteps

forwardsteps — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 13:06:10 +0000

Hi Derek,
When I saw a blog post that carried my web site title, I just had to go read it! You did us both proud. What an excellent article, and so true. Trust is everything.
Found my life partner at age 41 and we've now been together 9 years. We are very clear that we will be together through to the end of our lives. Trust is 100% it. Greg and I are free to be together, free to be apart, free for engaging in joint projects, and free for pursuing independent goals. All because trust is here.
One of my favorite relationship quotes is…
“I used to believe that marriage would diminish me, reduce my options. That you had to be someone less to live with someone else when, of course, you have to be someone more.” -Candice Bergen
Cheers, Thea

By: lmk

lmk — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:44:08 +0000

D, as always I admire your thoughts on this topic (you have always given me thought provoking advice and commentary on life and relationships).

I had to make a comment here because in my opinion, all you solitary people are the courageous ones on the front lines. You are out there on your own. And life is not easy to do solitarily.

We are made to love and be loved. Sure, that invites some heartache, but have you ever had your heart broken and not learned something that changed your life at least a little bit and got you to that even better place where you are right now?

We don't n e e d each other, but really, we do and we should.

You said, "I can’t pretend to know how to do any of it…"
D, no one knows. You just find yourself living it and realizing one day, "Wow, I'm doing this..."

By: E.P.

E.P. — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 13:06:34 +0000

I followed a link over here from Nilsa's blog and just wanted to say a huge 'Amen!' Seriously. You hit the nail on the head here.

As someone who was solitary for most of my adult life, I know where you're coming from. And as someone who was surprised by love, it makes me excited for other solitary people to be swept off their feet when the time is right and when they are ready.

By: Doniree

Doniree — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 12:08:18 +0000

Likes this. From someone in what seems like a place close to where you are, I get this. Well stated, D.

By: Summer Fades

Summer Fades — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:05:46 +0000

The best part about you? When, if you ever do decide to take the next step, will remember this. No games. No bullshit. It'll be a great journey for you to experience.

By: Derek Shanahan

Derek Shanahan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 05:18:03 +0000

You’re a wise young woman:)

By: LiLu

LiLu — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:30:37 +0000

It is not just an observation; it is a beautiful one. And I don't think there's anything wrong with being solitary... everyone says to "get out there!" I don't know, that just never sat well with me. I always figured if it was gonna happen, something that would actually make me want to spend my life *gasp* with ONE person...

It was gonna have to smack me upside the head. Hard.

And I was right.

Enjoy your time on your own. You're learning more than most who are desperately, blindly searching.