Roadtrip To New York

by DShan on July 21, 2009

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Tonight I get in my car with my dog and we drive across the country.

I find myself in the mode in which seven days with no real phone and sporatic internet puts someone like me.  Someone with clients and a full-time side job running a blogger network and all the other things that pop into your head before you take off into the wilderness like “don’t forget deoderant” and “like you’ll really need deoderant, D“.

I’m putting in some 15 hours, straight through and right past about a million summer homes, all the way up into the Adirondack Mountains to a little town with little town people and little going on and big, big nature.

My mother has been up at this little lake town nearly every year since she was born, along with her sisters and brothers who now call themselves parents to my hoard of nearly 30 cousins who are now gradually bringing us the next generation.

And so it goes, right?

It’s a magical time and place, this annual reunion of different generations and extended families and visitors and friends and pets and babies.  It was great as babies and we complained as we became teens and as we grew up we realized it was the best, most relaxed, most enjoyable, most rewarding week any one of us ever has.  Our generation has begun buying their own little cottages all around the spot we’ve come up to year after year, cementing a long future for our yearly gathering.

Our lake respite is fifty foot forest trees standing guard in a stoic stand-the-longest competition with our  rickety wood cabins, some nearly a hundred years old.  It’s grilling every night, followed by red wine and beer and jokes and debates and plans for tomorrow which could be adjusted depending the weather and depending on whim.

Real books are devoured and workouts are not rushed and our quaint little community beach is for all the time not mentioned so far.

It’s not enough…it’s never enough…but it’s so much more than some are lucky enough to have, and we all realize that.  We don’t always know when we get there, but we sure as hell know it when we leave.

I literally can not wait.

I’m considering leaving now and pushing through the night.   If it weren’t my first solo roadtrip out there, me trying to be as smart as I can about my energy, well, I’d be writing this in my head right now.

So maybe I’ll just jet when I hit publish.

Either way…I’m out of here.

Tell me about your extended family.  Say just the nice things.

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  • For the love of God, please tell me you packed deodorant. I mean, I know you're gonna be all outdoorsy and devil-may-care for a week but really? do you want to get the reputation for being the smelly cousin? I don't think so. I mean, I have smelly cousins. Trust. Me.

    My family does something similar, although only every five years, and we do it out on the family homestead land in the middle of NOWHERE North Dakota. We dig a hole and throw a pig in it and start a fire and there are kegs of beer and family so extended most of the younger generations never even remember each other (this is a party of my mother's cousins. and my grandmother had like, 12 brothers and sisters or something insane like that. it's crazy and huge) and we sit in the sun and get dusty and adopt new friends as members of the clan and play guitar out in the corn fields and golf on a makeshift course with makeshift clubs and play with babies and swat away mosquitoes... it's pretty much paradise. I'm never happier than when I'm there.
  • I brought deodorant and haven't used it yet. Oh well.

    That ND trip sounds incredible and you should push to do it yearly. It
    bridges the gap and you end up so much tighter!

    The fact that you do it at all is so important though.
  • Unrelated comment, oh blog guru:

    Is there something wrong/weird/lame about livejournal? I've noticed people don't seem to be as receptive to it. Is there a reason? Or is it just that passé?
  • I'm going to a cabin this weekend with my family. I'll like it when I'm there, but I have to remember to bring earplugs and a sleeping mask because they wake up at the crack of dawn and my family is the type that doesn't have volume control. They'll be talking so loudly at 8:00AM that if I don't have earplugs I won't get any sleep.
  • Oh man, my Aunts are vampires. They stay up til 4am and they are up at 7am
    or earlier, yelling about something and planning the day. It's more amazing
    than annoying. But I hear ya.
  • Woah I just realized I remember you posting about this last year. Time flies!

    My extended family happens to be enormous. Upwards of 150+ people enormous. I have 38 first cousins.

    It sounds insane, but large gatherings are always a random adventure, for sure.
  • It is quite an adventure. I've never actually counted our full extended
    'reach' in direct blood relatives...it has to be in that range. This is all
    just one side of my family...on my father's I have another 15 cousins.

    It was kind of crazy to write this post, because I remember writing about
    the trip last year like it was yesterday!
  • That sounds just perfect. I wish my family did something like that but they are not the outdoorsy types. Sigh...

    Have a great, relaxing time!
  • Your family seems awesome...and I say that just from pictures and your
    stories:)
  • lorettav2009
    My mama's family is loud, boisterous, often inappropriate, hospitable, and wonderful. My grandparents started inviting my in-laws over on Christmas Day because they celebrate with us earlier.
  • That's pretty cool...I love when different sides of a family mesh. We have
    tons of that...some of my cousin's cousins feel like they are blood
    relatives now. They all come up here too!
  • I love the Adirondacks. I was born in Vermont and though I moved to Australia when very young, not moving back to the US until I was in 8 th grade I spent some time in the Adirondacks at as a child vacationing with my grandparents. We went to school in what is summer here, but we has several weeks off and I spent a lot of it at either Saranac or Long Lake with my grandparents. I went there a few times in the summer during my NYU years too. I absolutely love the peace of it, the lakes, a cool little ice cream shop in Chestertown - near Brabt abd Schroon Lakes, the echo's during thunderstorms, a small lake beack towns and the time to read and think and hike and so on and so forth. I am so envious of you right now.

    enjoy
  • Thanks cooper! It's so cool that you know this area so well...it's
    majestic. I get here and want to stay forever! Saranac and Long Lake are
    both so beautiful! And we totally have 'our' ice cream shop in little Lake
    Luzerne that's a must every year, without fail:)
  • raeleighbsg
    they are all insane. truly. but we are all always there for each other.

    but they're nuts.

    i'm serious.
  • That's too funny. I feel the same way...totally nuts. Although you sound
    very serious:)
  • My god, that sounds magical! I'm sure you'll have a great time connecting and reconnecting with family and all. My entire family was here over the last week for little sister's wedding. It was amazing. I could say all kinds of things about my family, but they are - above all else - wonderful, close, loving, FUN-loving, hilarious, dance-floor-dominating, fascinating, and completely unique people. I'm always kind of overwhelmed and get kind of a high feeling after days spent together like this. Enjoy it and absorb the calm and the "OFF" you get to experience this week.
  • The calm is intoxicating. I love our family weddings, and it kind of sounds
    like ours are similar. Up here the dancing is removed and replaced with
    ill-advised late night runs to townie bars to sing karaoke. Yes, karaoke.
    It's quite embarrassing and quite funny.
  • That sounds so wonderful. I'm always jealous of big families because my family is very small. I have two first cousins. Yep, you read that right. But that said, I love my family so much, and as I get older I just want to spend time with them more and more. I guess that's what happens, if you're lucky.
  • Yeah, it does come with age...you just dig family so much. I do anyway.
    I'm so ancy for everyone to get up here...I stayed up til 4am last night cuz
    my sister was arriving. I'm already happily exhausted!
  • novelistabarista
    have a good time!
    my extended family is crazy. they all live in new york.... just a wacky bunch of people .. to say the least!
  • have a good time!
    my extended family is crazy. they all live in new york.... just a wacky bunch of people .. to say the least!
  • No kidding...where in New York? The city? Our NYC crowd is arriving
    today...can't wait!
  • I have extended family in Ohio and Pennsylvania. Some of my fondest childhood memories are of those reunions at Aunt Verona's in Altoona. Picking blackberries, roasting hot dogs, smashing pennies on train tracks. Seeing long lost cousins and getting the Spanish Inquisition from too many Great Aunts and listening to the women gossip and the men debate sports and politics...

    Have a great time. :)
  • Oh, the Spanish Inquisition, which we just call being Irish Aunts, has
    already begun. No one cares about anything except my love life,
    apparently. Ugh.
  • oh, derek, darling, you know what to do. Give those irish aunts one of
    your stunning thousand watt grins and tell them the truth. you're
    making sure that when you find ms. right that you are damn well ready
    to be mr. right. they'll love it. :)
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