Throw Me That Love, Chicago

by DShan on January 8, 2010

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Hello Chicago, how you doin’?  Where you goin’, can I come too?

I’m so taken by the city that birthed me as an adult.

I’m a kid that was born in a non-remarkable suburb that way back when I was growing up formed a line between the Chicagoland area and the rolling gold corn fields that didn’t end until Iowa started.  I didn’t know Chicago in those days.  I knew New York better than I knew Chicago, actually…every year I spent some time in the Big Apple.  I barely remember any real time in downtown Chicago until after I went away to college.

I think that’s why I took to the Bay Area in California the way that I did.  College is pretty formative, no doubt, but I didn’t have a lot edginess in my world growing up.  I played soccer, and although soccer dudes tend to be a bit alternative, I played both sides of that coin and during daylight hours I was a pretty model student athlete.

The sun rolled past the horizon every night, and I’ll admit that evenings involved a measured amount of misbehaving as highschool rolled to an end.  My basement’s still pretty famous for the parties we’d throw down there.

Out on the West Coast I loved the way the world opened up.  There were foothills bigger than any hills I’d seen in the Midwest.  There were valleys and beaches and bridges and wineries and they gave me avocado on nearly everything I ate.  California flirted with me hardcore, and I spun that girl on the dancefloor.

I never thought I’d stay in Chicago for long.

Seven or so years later I’m set to check out of the Midwest.  Right away the snow rolled in and dusted trees and cars in a delicate coat of beauty and attitude.  The strong Chicagoan in everyone emerged from hibernation and we had our first really cold weekend.

There’s a toughness about this city…a confidence in the experience of being a Chicagoan that doesn’t exist anywhere else on Earth.  This city stays sexy all winter.  It’s hard to see unless you train yourself to see through the challenge this time of year puts in front of us.  You look through it and you see smiles and music and art and a camaraderie among total strangers that’s only possible if you’ve walked through our streets and watched them transform themselves over and over and over again as seasons change and years roll by.  We watch our sports and politics with unwavering commitment, dedication, and skepticism.  We pride ourselves on hotdogs, pizza, and italian beef.  We don’t apologize for that.

Driving home last night I felt the familiarity of this city wrap me up like a blanket.  I’m crushing on this city, and I’m trying hard to enjoy the relationship we had as opposed to the ways in which I might have made it better.

Chicago, I love the way you move.

How is your relationship with where you live?  What if it ended tomorrow.

Right?

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  • I feel like a little bit of a newbie in Chicag0 - but yet, I totally feel you on this.

    A lot of my happiness has to do with my location, which has been the greatest debate of my life (in my head) as of late.

    I grew up in Kansas, and I swore to myself I was going to get out of that cow-town. So I followed my parents down to Florida. Thank God I did.

    In Florida, I hopped around a bit. I lived with my parents, practically lived with friends when I worked at Disney (didn't really but I was a couch crasher on many-an-occasion) and then I dabbled in Clearwater and Tampa as I finished up my degree.

    Chicago is the happiest I've been. I like WHO I AM in Chicago the most out of all the versions of myself that I've seen come and go. Chicago is where my future is. But it's not where my family is.

    Thus, the dilemma. I have an incredible network of support here in Chicago, as well as back home. And when I say "back home", I most certainly mean Florida - because that is where my family is.

    My parents said I'd be crazy to move back. That I have insane amounts of opportunity here to grow as a professional and really commit myself to my career. The weather isn't ideal, but damn it's beautiful. This city has totally spoiled me with everything it has to offer. Some people think I'm settling on Chicago. I call it a compromise. If I had identical opportunities in a city with a better climate - I don't know that I could accept. Now, I feel like anything less than Chicago is settling.

    But damn, do I miss Florida "winter".
  • It's funny how the city can still grab you despite the rough weather. We'll
    see how this winter plays out...I'd argue it's been tame so far.

    Who you are is always so much more important than where you are. There were
    points at which I didn't see any scenario taking me away from here. Now my
    instinct is to leave. You just never know.
  • foiledcupcakes
    Replace "Chicago" with "San Francisco" and "Bay Area" with "Chicagoland" and you've written my life story.

    Congratulations; you've officially qualified for brilliance with this post. :-)
  • Took me long enough!
  • I am a born and raised Chicago girl - I grew up in Oak Park, just outside the city. I never ventured out of my "comfort zone" too much, went to Champaign for undergrad, then followed that up by going to St. Louis for grad school. I originally had every intention of returning to Chicago to live and make a career, but as I approached graduation I started thinking - never a good idea. I decided that if I didn't travel now and experience something different, I probably never would. Once you lay down roots, have kids etc. it is that much harder to go off into the wild blue yonder. So I up and moved to Huntington Beach, CA. I lived there for a year, and now I am back and living in Wrigleyville. There are things I enjoyed about SoCal - the weather, the ability to see both the ocean and the mountains in the same day. But there were things that I just felt were missing - a certain charm, that Chicago has. Here, there are so many historic buildings that have been renovated to make for more modern touches, but they still retain those fun, quirky details. We live on the first floor of an old 3-flat and all of the rooms are irregularly shaped - making furniture placement a fun little challenge. In SoCal, (Orange County, at least) it felt like everything had been built in the 70's or later. There are more strip malls than anything else. It all feels very... commercial. I visited L.A. and San Diego while I was there and I would say in order of my preference it went: 1.) San Diego 2.) L.A. 3.) Orange County.

    One area I could never get sick of, however, was the Santa Monica Pier and Promenade on 3rd street. The energy there was addicting. Anyway, to each his own, but shortly after making my escape I learned that "There's no place like home."
  • Good for you for heading out to Cali; most never get a shot at that. I'm sure it's helped you appreciate Chicago a bit.

    I love northern Cali. Not a huge fan of southern. You're right about the Santa Monica! Love that area.
  • I grew up outside of Pittsburgh, and I never thought in high school I'd live in the city and actually like it. I figured I'd have to move somewhere like New York because that's just what people did if they wanted to get anywhere (oh, 16-year-old-me). I know I won't live here forever (I want to experience other places too), but for now, it's home.
  • It's so funny how far off we are when we're younger and imagining the future:)
  • I've never really been to Chicago, but this post makes me want to go and explore and see what you're saying.

    And while I just moved to Nashville, I'm in love with it already. The people, the food, the fashion, the weather... it's so different and perfect and where I need to be, even though I never thought I'd end up here.
  • Nashvegas is a great town. Been too long since I was there.

    You should go check out Chicago!
  • I have moved around so much, I never really allowed myself time to get attached to anywhere in particular...or so I thought.
    I suppose most would say that Brisbane is my city - it was the first place I moved to out of highschool, and I seem to keep going back there. However, the one place I was sad to leave was Melbourne. I have always been a city girl, and I felt more at home there than anywhere else. I grew up in Sydney, but that has changed so much now that I barely recognise it. I actually cried when I left Melbourne - it really is the greatest city in this country, in my opinion.
    Where I live now...its not so bad. But I don't think it will ever be my 'real' home.
  • Oh man, I want to see all those cities!!
  • ah, love this post...

    i love my city of nashville as well...

    Am I allowed to be in love with nashville and still be crushing on DC and BCN?
  • Oh yeah. Multi-city crushes encouraged.
  • I never truly appreciated my hometown until I left. Now, all I want to do is go back. When I first moved, I gave my new home a completely open mind. But with each passing day, I find one more thing that my old home has that my new one doesn't. It's sad.
  • Yeah, I wonder what I'll consider lacking up there, as I remember Chicago. I think Vancouver's a pretty cool place, from what I've heard, so here's to hoping it blows me away:)
  • arrangetheday
    Chicago is my girl next store, only it doesn't take me until the end of the movie to know I'm in love.
  • I am going to miss this city majorly...man.
  • nicoleantoinette
    San Francisco and I are new to each other, like those first few months of dating where you're elated and on fire but totally unsure about everything.
  • Not a bad stage in the relationship:) I'm about to start dating Vancouver!
  • nicoleantoinette
    Wanna go on a double date with our new cities?
  • Haha. Of course!
  • Considering my relationship with my Minneapolis doesn't END tomorrow, but absolutely changes TOMORROW, this is quite relevant. I tried to take in every single thing today bigger and stronger than ever before, even the way the cold bites. I walked off my Minneapolis steps deliberately. I drove the same highways I've been driving for over ten years and tried to paste the images in my head.

    It's 10:36pm in Minneapolis. I leave for Colorado in less than 8 hours.

    Shitballs.
  • And here I sit, a mere 8 hours from the flight out tomorrow. Freaking right now.
  • It didn't hit me so much until a few hours on the road. I think when that plane takes off you'll get that too.

    I am SO excited for you. Be in touch when you're settled. This is a ride, friend. :)
  • Yep! And let's connect you with my sister Stacey!
  • Ashalah
    Right now, I'm in between homes but it's hitting me now that i'm about to move to a smallish town/city in Colorado that I'm NOT returning to New York. To that big, crazy, drag you down, knock you out, pick you up and let you soar place that I have lived in for six years. I'm going to miss a lot of things about it but there are many things that I am looking forward to in a much more laid back, chill environment!

    I'm looking forward to the discoveries of your new city!
  • I'm looking forward to your stories from Colorado. What a massive change from NY...my sister will be out there so you ladies better take care of her!
  • erini
    I couldn't imagine leaving Chicago any time soon.

    I grew up in Indiana, and though I miss my family, I don't think I could move back. However, my financial situation being what it is (and has been) the reality of retreating back to the corn and soy fields is always in the back of my mind.

    This city sure has gotten into me, and I'm 100% A-OK with that.

    Visit often, okay?
  • Oh, I'll be back soon. Take care of Chitown while I'm gone!
  • Chalise
    Craziest thing though. I'm having the same kind of heart swell feelings for SD now that the Denver move is approaching. I find myself taking huge deep breaths of the sweet mild air and feeling so gosh darn lucky and appreciative that I have been walking back and forth between the house and the garage today barefoot, wearing a short cotton skirt and a tshirt. More LOVE. And yes, we will DEFINITELY all be back...although most likely back to the very remarkable beautiful river town for me. love you call me
  • Oh darling - I am excited for you and the Denver chapter of your life. G and you gotta look up Stacey when you get out there!

    See you soon love.
  • Pollypoptart
    I grew up just outside Glasgow, have lived in the city now since I was 23 and I love it so much I can ignore the little niggling problems like gangs of neds and dodgy weather (especially right now when it's been in the minus degrees since Christmas) and imagine myself staying here forever.

    Moving from somewhere you've formed an attachment with is something I imagine is pretty intimidating, and very brave. I commend you for that wholeheartedly.
  • Glasgow is a place I'd love to visit.

    I move tomorrow, and the panic's setting in:)
  • Chalise
    Heart Swell LOVE
  • Back atcha. Don't know how you did it. We'll all be back, right? :)
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