You Women Are My Valentines

by DShan on February 15, 2010

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I’ve spent my whole life surrounded by incredible women.

My mother, bless her, is the epitome of pure love.

She’s a woman who’s conquered every inch of her heart and shows everyone around her what it means to really be human.  She loves harder than anyone I know, and she raised me to do the same.

My darling sisters attack life with wide open eyes and unabashedly caring hearts, the spark in every room they enter.  They radiate the kind of beauty Kings built Empires for, and every day I’m not around them I miss a little piece of myself.

If you only knew the kind of people I got to call family.

I have some thirty odd cousins, maybe more, and an overwhelming majority of them are women.  The kind of women they write books about; women who cut through life with love and rigor and a fierce prowess that demands nothing but goodness and a grounded sense of humor.  They want to know you, everything about you, because they want to know how to love you.  Everyone in sight is family, in our family.

I boast adoring Aunts, quirky and matriarchal, overflowing with wisdom of the heart.  Their undercurrent is fueled by an innate sense of family and homestead; life is life, and it’s nothing without the people you love.

My truly magnanimous grandmother, sharply navigating a long and storied life of deep belief and tradition, left cancer in her wake and walks among the Saints, a maven of Queens, New York.

Might we all live a life as full as hers.

To that I add a circle of girlfriends to slay dragons.

The most beautiful, caring, hilarious and intelligent women this planet’s got skipping around it.  World changers and nurturers, all of them show me on a regular basis how simple life really is.

I believe that the entire history of mankind’s battle between heart and mind is running through every woman alive, and the few that I’m fortunate enough to call friends each in their own way reveal the savviest navigation of that balancing act.  My heart beats for you, misses you dearly, and would stop in its tracks without each of you in my life.

You women shape my world.

You women frame my expectations.  You women shine a light on how we got here, and what tomorrow looks like.

You women are my heart and soul.

You women are my Valentines.

  • katiedepalma
    How sweet D - love you!
  • Yay! It worked! Love ya back.
  • Dude, that was ridiculously sweet.

    Best Valentine's post I've read.
  • <picks back="" floor="" from="" jaw="" up="">

    Good stuff. :)</picks>
  • OK you had me at dshan. What a weird day to be emailing with someone who I think is this random guy from 2osomething and then to come across you. This was beautiful your words are beautiful. You have an amazing gift...a wonderful talent and as a mother and someone who is madly in love with love-this was beautiful...
  • andreleech
    Such a sweet and sincere post :) The world needs more people like you.
  • Thanks Andrew!
  • This is really sweet, d. Don't make me miss you more!
  • Love ya sis.
  • suck up. ;) seriously, i should have read this on sunday, but i was drunk at the airport. happy belated valentine's day to you!
  • Haha. Drunk at airport is a great holiday. :)
  • Ashalah
    Derek. What a fabulous, sweet post. It's amazing the amount of love you hold for these people in your life, it's inspirational.
  • Aw...the love's there for everyone, iFriends included. (That means you
    too!)
  • This post, combined with your text, basically made my Valentine's Day. What power you have darlin. Heart your face off.
  • Heart ya back!
  • That was beautiful! Good job!
  • Thanks Erin!
  • umm ... sweetest post ever.
  • Naw...just some stuff that needed to be said:)
  • Awwwwwww. Derek. This is total sweetness. I loved this part, "They want to know you, everything about you, because they want to know how to love you," and am stealing that as an explanation as to why I'm so damn nosy about my friends, their lives, and their dreams. Because really - that's totally it.
  • Some might call it nosy, but hey. The family I come from IS nosy:) It's
    all in good fun though, and once you realize they are just interested, it's
    a little easier to handle for 'newbies'.
  • IvaM
    some of your posts need to come with WARNINGS, or at least a nice heads up that they will cause major tears....happy tears, but still tears! such a beautiful post. I think my heart totally melted. I'm sure your grandmother just smiled a huge beautiful, proud smile. I can only hope that one day my son...and hopefully someday (many many many MANY years from now) grandson, speaks with such love about the women in his family and life. you rock always!
  • Your son's gonna be gushing at his awesome mom for decades to come, Iva.
    :)
  • Cha
    Love you too D. miss you a lot. wish we could have a night.
  • A night would be magic, love. Total stars and the moon magic. Tell your
    boy I said to love you like whoa all week!
  • OMG - You are so sweet. This post is the sweetest post in the world of posts! ROCK ON DEREK.
  • OMG, thank you so much Sonya! Whatever you're the sweetest in our office.
    Shhh, don't tell:)
  • This post made my heart melt and my eyes get teary. You're a good egg, Derek Shanahan.
  • My gosh, thank you so much.
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