Make A Decision To Decide
Working on a startup teaches you how to live deliberately.
It’s about making decisions quickly and defaulting towards action.
It’s uncomfortable at first. Until you operate in this particularly deliberate professional way inside of a context hyper-focused on creating something totally new, you just don’t know what it’s like to do so.
You start to see the world as one possibility after another, and you begin to challenge all of your own assumptions because you’re spending so much of your time trying to challenge the expectations of other people.
When you don’t take anything for granted and you decide to decide, you stop letting fear be an excuse to not try things.
It doesn’t mean you’re not afraid to be wrong but it does mean you stop being afraid to fail.
Failing is actually something you realize everyone is doing, all the time, in small and big ways…and not only are you not judging them for it but you notice that the happiest people you know fail hard and often. The most successful people you know fail all the time.
When you stop being afraid to fail, and you decide to make deciding and doing your default.
You also quickly realize that a lot of people are stuck.
They’re in a job or career they won’t decide to love or hate, to change or keep.
They’re in a relationship they won’t decide for or against.
They’re undecided about who they really are.
Which becomes who they are.
You need to realize that you’ll probably be wrong on things but you won’t know until you decide and take some action. You need to trust that waiting isn’t going to change things…and the things that do change while we wait are happening to us.
Letting things happen to you is very different than making things happen for you. Making things happen for you is…
…well, it’s just better.
It makes you confident and comfortable with a world you can’t predict. It makes it easier to know who you are, and to be who you are.
It becomes easy to talk about who you are, how you’re feeling, and what you’re doing.
It’s hard, too, so I get why people can’t break through the skin of their comfort zone to move forward. They can’t get into the habit of making a decision and taking some action, however big or small it may be.
The thing is, failure and missteps aren’t just unavoidable, they should be sought out. Go get them under your belt.
It’s those failures and missteps that will lead you to happiness and success.Written by dshan on April 30, 2011