The Generosity Of Friends And Family

My friends, though, have proven in the most tangible ways that our relationships really transcend the realities of the world and have their foundation in the purest form of friendship and support. They’ve literally stepped up for me. Understood (without judgement, I might add) that I’d taken risks that weren’t working out. Risks that in some ways affected them, which isn’t always a risk you have every right to take.

It’s a funny thing, money.

I mean, I really wouldn’t know at the moment, as I’ve poured it into businesses for two years now with largely no tangible return, but that’s not really what this post is about.

A few years back I was making a lot of money.  Six figures…I didn’t even realize it until I got my tax statements at the end of the year.  It’d been a fun year, obviously, and I’d even paid down all my debt.

Yeah, all of it.

That lasted like a split second.

Having been there, though, isn’t something I’ll ever forget.

I always knew going into business for myself was risky, but I wasn’t quite prepared for the total collapse of our financial markets and the ensuing stagnation it brought the industry I was in (my LinkedIn is here).  Debt mounted, and here I am today with some very tight times.  Bootstrapping a tech startup to boot.

Point is, the last two years, financially, have really honestly been nothing but total disaster for me, and the reality is that something like that spills over into the lives of the people who care about you.

My family is truly amazing.  The support they’ve given me and continue to give me is nothing short of incredible, and as someone who’s not really built to ask for help, the definition of the word generosity has been redefined for me.  I’m very, very lucky.

It’s so beyond what I deserve or expect that it blow my mind, and probably deserves quite a lot more attention on this blog.

My friends, though, have proven in the most tangible ways that our relationships really transcend the realities of the world and have their foundation in the purest form of friendship and support.  They’ve literally stepped up for me.  Understood (without judgement, I might add) that I’d taken risks that weren’t working out.  Risks that in some ways affected them, which isn’t always a risk you have every right to take.

It’s funny, because a lot of people are writing about money this week, and the way friends have played a role in their spending or thoughts around finances.

I can’t think of anything beyond the way that money’s been largely a negative for me for more than two years straight, and my friends have all circled around me and lifted me up without even flinching.

You guys all know who you are, and I know it’s not easy to step up for friends when it’s inconvenient.  I know it’s fifty times harder when money’s involved.  I know I owe you, deeply and in ways I could probably never repay you.

I just hope you never doubt how much it’s meant to me.

How my well being is directly related to you…my friends and my family.

I work my ass off, every day, because of you.

I’m forever grateful.

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