I just dug up this post from my unfinished drafts, nearly a year ago. I may have posted it; I honestly have no idea. Either way, I chopped out 500 words, and thought I’d share.
Every day you work, you’re learning to be a better lover.
Every day you love, you’re equipping yourself professionally.
The two are quite common experiences. It might be useful to consider them in harmony.
Actions and Words
Love is undoubtedly proven through the things that you do, as opposed to the things you might say.
Empty words and broken promises leave an enormous impact on lovers, co-workers, customers and clients.
People will always prioritize their most reliable relationships; we date the most attentive and trustworthy, and we’re loyal to affectionate professional relationships.
Ideas aren’t enough these days. Execute.
Are you talking about what you’ll do with your life, or are you doing something to make it happen?
The First Date
A first impression portrays possibility.
Trust is a product of transparency, connection, and honesty. Your quirks, nuances, oddities, and uniqueness fuel the strength of your strongest relationships. Embrace them with friends and lovers. Leverage them in your professional life.
At work, you should be repeatedly seeking second dates. Although, if a relationship is toxic, inappropriate, or simply not going anywhere, it’s time to break up.
Do you treat your pursuit of purpose as if you want a second date?
Time In The Trenches
Falling in love is a product of perseverance and commitment. Your approach to love changes drastically as you mature. Your personal relationships mature through a process of learning and patience.
When it comes to love, you never skip the part where you learn your way around someone.
As we work, our ambition can preempt that diligence.
You’re likely surrounded by resources and experience. Your career will stand on your ability to absorb wisdom, insight and feedback.
Are you in touch with your inexperience? Do you seek out guidance and expertise?
The community around your love life is vast, and has a significant impact on friendships and romance.
We’ve learned to be hyper-conscious of our social circles. The rewards it offers are endless; community, support, friendship, and fun.
The perils it can deliver in the face of dishonesty or selfishness are hard-learned, never forgotten.
Your pursuit of purpose involves a similar community. In many cases, this community is significantly larger than your social circle.
You are being interpreted and assessed by that group nearly constantly these days, so stand tall, take the higher ground, and offer value. Distribute respect and support.
Lead by example, because people are looking to be lead.
The strongest relationships are between people who make one another better versions of themselves. Great relationships value individuality as opposed to over-dependence.
Produce something valuable to your field. Engage thought leaders.
Take on projects that interest you. Create.
You don’t have to be at a startup to invent, launch, or develop new and exciting ideas.
Just trying will usually spice up your relationships.
You Don’t Know Everything
Take what you do know, and apply it to what you don’t.
We typically learn about love a lot earlier than we learn about work.
Love is work.
Work is about relationships.
You may not know everything, but between the two you know quite a bit.